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Long Distance Relationships (LDRs) are a unique kind of relationship for so many different reasons. Whether you're communicating with someone in the next town/city to where you live, or they're half a world away. There are thousands of unique stories out there to be told, and if you have one you think would add to my site, please email me with it and I'll include it in here for others to read and learn by.
My LDR was like so many others. I met my husband online. Neither of us was looking at a relationship, it just happened. And thank goodness it did. The things that we had going in our favour were many - we spoke the same language (most of the time anyway - some of the things I said to him he didn't immediately understand, and vice-versa), we understood the other's sense of humour, we had the same ideals in life, we were both single, we became soul-mates, and we both loved each other very deeply.
The difficult parts of our LDR was the distance (he was in America, I was in New Zealand), the time difference, the judgemental people around us, and the paperwork involved in us getting together.
We overcame all of these obstacles one-by-one. There is no other way to do it in my books. With each obstacle passed our love became stronger and our friendship deeper. I have no doubt that our love will continue to grow even though we are together, and have been married for nearly 8 years now. The initial 'tests' of being in an LDR were just another way of us realising how strong and wonderful our love for each other was. Over the years together we've been through so much more, not through our own doing, but because of the 'forces' around us. Our love will survive, it grows stronger every day and if you have found that kind of love online then I applaud you. It's not easy, the people around you often make it even more difficult. You are lucky if you have friends and family that support you. My husband's family supported us without hesitation and a handful of my closest friends did too. MANY said they supported me to my face but yet behind my back practically put bets on how long our marriage last. My own so-called-mother took out a loan in order for her to come to our wedding in Phoenix (I had offered to buy her the ticket, but she initially said she wouldn't come to my wedding so I bought someone else a ticket instead). She told people that it would probably take her longer to pay the loan off than our marriage would last - now how's that for faith? Of course, she didn't tell me that, she just told everyone else around her.
Have faith in yourself. Have faith in the one you love and love will survive and flourish!
I have always been, and remain to this day, a huge believer in following your gut feelings. I know sometimes it's difficult not to follow your heart - I followed my heart to my husband. However, I also followed my gut and there were, and still are to this day, no 'bad' feelings in my gut! Many is the time when I have dated someone and I had a gut feeling about a part of our relationship - and that gut feeling has proven itself right in one form or another. So go with your gut!!
For those of you who have to go through the lengthy and time consuming process of applying for visas, green cards, naturalisation etc, etc - here is a link to the Immigration Services in America with all of the necessary forms and information that goes along with it. The only thing I have to say about that is - take deep breaths and keep on top of everything. Always know where you are in the process and what needs to be done next and have it ready. Don't give up hope, it all takes time and it's certainly worth it in the end.